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Kris's avatar

What Balle exposes is that becoming “different sorts of people” doesn’t dissolve obligation, it distorts it. What we owe each other no longer rests on reciprocity, shared time, or mutual expectation. Across the lifespan, we slip out of sync quietly. Childhood, illness, ageing all alter the terms long before love or recognition disappear.

The moral strain isn’t working out whether we owe something, but how to live with duties that can’t be balanced or discharged. Care becomes asymmetrical, repetitive, and wearing. The novel refuses comfort because there is none to offer. What we owe each other, once we become different sorts of people, is not equality of exchange, but the harder work of remaining ethically present in conditions that no longer settle.

Ryan Smith's avatar

Marriage vows, I feel, have an unstated time loop exception within them.

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