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AbigailAmpersand's avatar

Excellent stuff. Nobody else is writing stuff like this. The Proverbs connection is very interesting. You've made me think about Peter Pan's refusing Wisdom. It's pagan of him, really. He's not called Pan for nothing.

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Henry Oliver's avatar

Indeed!

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Bethany Edstrom's avatar

The idea that mothers "clean out their children's minds" every night after they fall asleep stabs me in the heart every time I read it.

When I read modern children's books, my first question is always "was this written for children or for parents?" The best ones were written for children, but most were written for parents. So many are parenting manuals in disguise - a children's book about a child having a tantrum is really a parenting guide about how to handle a tantrum, etc. I'm not opposed to educating parents, but this is such an odd way to do it. Pre-WW2 children's books, especially the British ones, were 100% for children and are fantastically weird as a result.

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Kate Harwood's avatar

I couldn’t read the end to my children or listen to the play in the car without crying, what is it Peter says to Mrs Darling? ‘You’ll not catch me lady and make me a man’ …it’s heartbreaking.

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Rachel Wildavsky's avatar

Me too.

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Chen Rafaeli's avatar

a brilliant take on one of my most favorite books. Thank you, Henry

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Grant Mulligan's avatar

Damn, Henry. This one got me. All teary-eyed sitting at the cafe. Beautifully written.

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Henry Oliver's avatar

haha that's what we aim for!

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Jeff Rensch's avatar

Would love you to write also on the eerie play Mary Rose, again tackling the theme of not aging and how terrible that can be. Hitchcock wanted to film it with Tippi Hedren.

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Henry Oliver's avatar

Yes I'd like to write about his plays

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melindawrubin's avatar

What a beautiful piece Henry, left me quite choked up. I am off to buy my granddaughter (18 months old) a copy of Peter Pan.

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Henry Oliver's avatar

:)

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Lucy Seton-Watson's avatar

Okay, I’ll look again. Last time I really hated it. But that may have been local circs.

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Red apples and other warnings's avatar

I love this. And yes the part about mothers organising children's thoughts at night is wonderful. Its something I'd say I've always done with mine. It reminds me of books like Little Wonen. Anne of Green Gables plus Noel Streatfield and Rumer Gooden

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Katy Sammons's avatar

Wonderful piece of literary criticism! I'm almost ashamed to ask this. (I've only seen movie adaptations.) Which edition did you read? When I search "Peter Pan Oxford World Classics" I get several possibilities, including Peter Pan and Other Plays, The Collected Peter Pan, and Peter Pan in Kensington Gardens.

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Rachel Wildavsky's avatar

Wonderful!

But it's a scary book, too, and not because of the pirates or the Indians.

To me, it's scary mostly because of the stolen children. Barrie shows us the parents' fear and grief. Nana's desperate barking, when it's too late, is truly terrifying. We all know there are places our children go where we can't follow them. We know sometimes it's other people who take them there.

Thanks so much for posting about this!

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Henry Oliver's avatar

yes agree, he really knows what upsets parents

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Maria Khan's avatar

Very emotional story for me. Great article, Henry! My girls, 12 and 7, are doing a play on Wendy and Peter and we are discovering so much about each other through it. Them knowing more about what I was like as a kid and how much of their world I can still potentially understand - all of this has happened because we have this “language” from the play. For my 12.5 year old, the deeper discussions about growing up are also coming out, ever so gently because they can get so emotional. Like the story, I love the mix of levity and depth we need to put into these talks.

Thanks for writing!

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Henry Oliver's avatar

thanks!

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